Max is a real jerk. A long time ago, the successful lawyer had turned over all the routine duties of family life to his wife Nathalie.His comfort and leisure time were a far greater priority. Sell the roadster and buy an efficient family car? No way!But then, Max’s fast-paced life suddenly screeches to a halt when Nathalie is hospitalized for several weeks with a complicated fracture.Alone with their two children and the dog he hates, Max quickly reaches the boiling point.As if having to play father was not bad enough, he is shocked to the core when he discovers passionate love letters written to his wife and signed “From G. in love”. Feeling that his life is slipping out of control, Max’s first impulse is to find out who his rival is. Then it dawns on him – could the way he has treated his wife be the reason why she has sought out another lover?Now Max attempts to see his situation from a different point of view. Last week he was ready to plan the yearly guys’ vacation he takes with his best buddy, but now things have changed.Max recognizes just how much he needs Nathalie’s humor, her organizing talent and her optimism, but also just how important to him she and his family really are. Max tries to discover the mysterious lover’s identity, but because of his new insight, he takes an additional step.Unfortunately, when he learns that the mystery man is Gregor, Max realizes that not only does the man have all those qualities - he is very attractive as well. His struggle to become a better husband and father suddenly becomes far more difficult.Hoping to knock Gregor out of the picture and get back in Nathalie’s good graces, Max makes an appointment with a successful life coach. But turning his life around is far more difficult than he had imagined.To make matters worse, Gregor turns out to be a loving, family-oriented man just what Nathalie needs. Max is desperate – he knows there is a real chance that he might lose Nathalie and the children.Willing to put everything on the line to keep his family intact, Max makes the biggest sacrifice of his life. Then something happens that is the very last thing he could have ever counted on…
我私心的喜欢，其实一大部分喜欢还是来自埃莱娜的原著，虽然还没看到，但是一眼就能确定是她会关注到的会写作的风格。我也蛮没想到The lost daughter这个名字，其实讲的是母职惩罚的故事。除了科尔曼，尤其喜欢演young Leda的Jessie，她可真漂亮，达妹的角色外表看起来就已经产后抑郁很严重的样子了。
宣告了玛吉·吉伦哈尔作为优秀导演的诞生，也宣告了一部优秀的女性主义电影应该是什么样子。很少能看到将女性的内心创伤与面对外界的各种不安互动心理以如此细微、悬置的方式呈现出来，既是费兰特也是导演的功力。一种能真切体认到的病态情境在持续发生，在主人公以为能获得对方谅解却意外被刺后，病症却也舒缓了下来，以痛止痛，收尾很妙。电影在说，没有哪个女人能理解哪个女人，或说没有哪个人能真的理解你自己，连你也困顿其中。
读费兰特的采访，她说她会让吉伦哈尔自由发挥，因为“我们在男性的笼子里待得太久了——现在这个笼子正在坍塌，女性艺术家必须完全自主”，并补充说不会给男性导演同样的自由。这很有趣，让我想到戴锦华在论坛上，一位男生提问作为男性电影人如何拍好具有女性视角的电影，而戴老师直白的回答“妇女议题不需要男性光临指导，他们拍片时只需要保留起码的平常心和同理心就足够”。费兰特和吉伦哈尔，再加上一众优秀的女演员，她们对于母职的讨论毫无粉饰、直言不讳，但同时避免歇斯底里，极其克制冷静。整个观影过程令我感受到了一种说不明的亲密。作为吉伦哈尔的长片处女作更是觉得惊艳，每个选择都沉稳成熟，尤其喜欢里面交叉剪辑和一些蒙太奇的处理。
成就自我，成就儿女，至多成一项。往往皆不得。
对费兰特的故事内核有点疲劳了，中老年Nino那段差点弃看
补遗。等修复版，真tm好看。基本算是侯拍的吧，快准狠。
中间和女背包客以及和Nina的几段镜头太柔情太暧昧了，感觉她们在一起会快乐自由很多
全是怼脸的大特写，也能把握的很好，女演员就是女演员👏👏👏看完以后Netflix给我接着推荐的是Emily in Paris 2，这不对🙅♂️
不想成为母亲的女人成为了母亲。细节处理的地方很好，音乐和那些恍惚的部分处理得太好了。对女性的处境细节描述得特别尖锐。
对费兰特的故事内核有点疲劳了，中老年Nino那段差点弃看
在另一位母亲的身上看到自己过去的影子，连带回忆起曾经的困境与矛盾。电影释放出了勒达面对母亲的责任与向往的独立而彷徨下的负能量，也揭示了没有做好准备却开始抚养孩子的现实问题，暗处的女儿既是家中被冷落的孩子，亦是内心深处渴望爱却又害怕爱的自己。
年度惊悚片 值得列入反婚反育片单 完全就是母职惩罚 可以说每一帧都是我不喜欢小孩的理由 影片里的父亲/丈夫就可以轻易说出要为了工作离开 把两个孩子都交给妻子照顾 而妻子却在往后的十多年里都困于当初“不称职”的阴影中 没有人应该为了任何理由对实现自我价值而感到愧疚
这个片子没有爆真的很不科学，费兰特比较迂回的一面都在这儿了。推荐和小妈妈对看，同一个题目的两重路径。
有很多隐喻但是不生硬炫技，很回味的电影。快结尾的地方很有意思：莱达看到妮娜与自己相似的纠结和共鸣，终于把惴惴不安的秘密直接告诉了妮娜：自己拿走了娃娃，结果妮娜扎伤莱达，担心违背预期落了地，很无奈也很现实
这部片子就能给我这样的感觉：也没什么太大动静，但是感觉很屌的样子。原住民文化渗透的通篇演绎避免了矫情和造作。接近写实的拍摄显得粗糙，但带来的真实感的确是台湾新生代所谓犯罪电影无法比拟的。谭志刚，就是牯岭街里的小马，遗憾你真是走的太早。PS：如果我有一天误入歧途，请赐我跟班高捷大哥
终于看了，还是油管一位博主上传的最高清版本。由手枪开始的连环效应，在之后的台湾青春剧中也曾见过。总之好真实也好喜欢，配乐太棒了，本身也超级爱这首主题曲！
罗大佑和林强表演皇后大道东那一段很high哈哈，台北版小武（比贾樟柯的还早），电影版一佰万（和新宝康乐队同一年），配乐也不错！
sad and beautiful 以及看credit才发现并恍然大叫那个老头是ed Harris演的我就说……
PS：杰西·巴克利演很好！
不停跳跃般的闪回和涌出屏幕的特写镜头的视听语言制造的眩晕感让观众反而更加感同身受。故事的呈现方式诗意又美味，女导演的个人风格太强了。一部女性主义电影。学术和家庭生活对年轻的Leda并不是一种平衡，而是从责任的重负/桎梏中真正地解脱出来回归自我。而comeback to me的代价又是痛苦的，短暂美妙的自由之后随之而来的因为遗弃而带来的内疚自责和厌恶感，通过两个家庭、娃娃和女儿的对照映射描绘得极拔群。和母亲的关系，"in creating me she'd seperate herself like pushing a plate away if the food's repulsive” 及两个女儿性格的描写让我感慨对女性挣扎和野心欲望的细致入微的观察和描绘都非常费兰特。OST也极佳。
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